Back when I was an ignorant young hippy, soliloquizing over my John Denver cassettes, I often pondered the “finding myself” topic. It was an evasive and enigmatic topic. There was something there but what I didn’t know. It was also at war with the pragmatic and git-er-done side of me.
Over the years, the pragmatic won over more often than not. That’s the stuff we value in our culture, after all. Set aside that naval gazing BS and get stuff done. Make a list and judge yourself according to how many things you completed. John Denver could afford the luxury of hanging out in the mountains with his guitar to, yuck, yuck, find himself. He was lucky after all.
I hope you can hear the sarcasm dripping from this last few sentences. But the truth is, there’s a part of my blue-collar, victim oriented background that still suggests that viewpoint. (When we’re living in the victim space, those living their dream are viewed with suspicion and contempt.)
I still love John Denver’s music and will forever be grateful for how he set to music the deeper longings of my heart – even when I couldn’t recognize it.
Now, John Denver might not be your preferred type of music but his message – finding yourself – is a quest we are hardwired for.
If you’re unsure of what to do, a good place to start is with some of the free assessments listed on the “resources” tab here on my website. I’m especially fond of the DISC survey but that is not a freebie. (You can find that at the 48days.com website.)
These tools can help you gain a deeper understanding of yourself. What motivates you? Do you prefer working with people or things? Are you a free spirit or are you all about the details?
Knowing yourself will help you with the “What do I want” question in that it will help your desires and goals to be in congruence with your natural strengths and tendencies.
For me, I am learning to live within the tension of having the heart of mystic packaged in a bit of a drill sergeant body. I can learn from both sides of my personality. Thankfully, I have learned enough to know that the following clip is NOT a good coaching methodology.